Before I learned boundaries, my life looked good on the surface.

But underneath I was secretly resentful.

In the darkness of the early mornings, my thoughts whirled around the impending day. I mentally ticked through the day’s activities, trying to put all the puzzle pieces together so everything would fall in place.

Because I had no boundaries to keep me from doing too much, I constantly felt drained.

Before I learned boundaries I had a hard time saying “no.” I went along with what others wanted…or what I thought they wanted. I was an approval-seeker, trapped in a never-ending cycle of trying to please others. 

Because I had no boundaries to define where I ended and someone else began, I often asked myself, Who am I anymore?

Before I learned boundaries, I felt disconnected, discouraged, and lonely—even in my closest relationships.

I frequently wondered, What is wrong with me?

I was really nice. 

And I tried very hard. 

I did all the things I thought a good Christian girl should do. 

But it wasn’t working. 

And I began to work on that.  

It didn’t happen overnight. 

I started opening up in the right places and found myself heard and understood. 

I talked to my life coach and attended meetings with women who were working on boundary-setting. 

I prayed a lot and I began to discern where I needed limits in my life.

I looked at the life of Jesus and saw that He had boundaries, too. 

So I practiced my boundaries. 

It wasn’t easy in the beginning, and often, I failed. 

But I didn’t give up. 

Eventually, I began to see a difference. The dynamics of my routines and relationships improved. Healthy boundaries became part of my everyday life. 

I learned to…

• Set healthy limits in a loving way
• Say no without the guilt
• Speak up about my thoughts and opinions
• Relate to others in new and healthier ways
• Stop letting my life revolve around someone else 
• Become an individual 

In the spaces that healthy boundaries created, I found myself becoming the person God created me to be.

I stopped taking on too many responsibilities.

I felt more connected to the ones I loved the most.

I no longer felt trapped in people-pleasing and overcommitment. 

With better boundaries, I had a better life. 

As your life coach, I can help you discern and implement healthy boundaries. You’ll  feel more confident and find yourself again. You’ll  keep what is yours and let go of what is not.