Before I learned boundaries, my life looked good on the surface.
But underneath I was secretly resentful.
In the darkness of the early mornings, my thoughts whirled around the impending day. I mentally ticked through the day’s activities, trying to put all the puzzle pieces together so everything would fall in place.
Because I had no boundaries to keep me from doing too much, I constantly felt drained.
Before I learned boundaries I had a hard time saying “no.” I went along with what others wanted…or what I thought they wanted. I was an approval-seeker, trapped in a never-ending cycle of trying to please others.
Because I had no boundaries to define where I ended and someone else began, I often asked myself, Who am I anymore?
Before I learned boundaries, I felt disconnected, discouraged, and lonely—even in my closest relationships.
I frequently wondered, What is wrong with me?
I was really nice.
And I tried very hard.
I did all the things I thought a good Christian girl should do.
But it wasn’t working.
And I began to work on that.
It didn’t happen overnight.
I started opening up in the right places and found myself heard and understood.
I talked to my life coach and attended meetings with women who were working on boundary-setting.
I prayed a lot and I began to discern where I needed limits in my life.
I looked at the life of Jesus and saw that He had boundaries, too.
So I practiced my boundaries.
It wasn’t easy in the beginning, and often, I failed.
But I didn’t give up.
Eventually, I began to see a difference. The dynamics of my routines and relationships improved. Healthy boundaries became part of my everyday life.
I learned to…
In the spaces that healthy boundaries created, I found myself becoming the person God created me to be.
I stopped taking on too many responsibilities.
I felt more connected to the ones I loved the most.
I no longer felt trapped in people-pleasing and overcommitment.
With better boundaries, I had a better life.
As your life coach, I can help you discern and implement healthy boundaries. You’ll feel more confident and find yourself again. You’ll keep what is yours and let go of what is not.
A zero-commitment inquiry call is a great way to get your questions answered.
Leslie Newman has been married to her husband, Steve, for 29 years, and they have two adult children and a daughter-in-law.
She has a BS in Special Education, a Master’s Degree in Elementary Education, and 30+ years of experience teaching in public, private, and home school settings. She has also enjoyed teaching preschool music classes, piano lessons, and children’s choirs. Her hobbies are writing and hiking.
Leslie offers individual and group coaching to help women implement healthy boundaries that build confidence and improve relationships.
Leslie abides by the ICF Code of Ethics and is a Certified Professional Life Coach. She obtained her CPLC Certification from the Professional Christian Coaching Institute. She is working toward obtaining her ACC Coach Credential from the International Coach Federation.
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