When I was stuck in people-pleasing patterns, my life looked good on the outside, and no one would ever suspect how I felt on the inside.

In the darkness of the early mornings, my thoughts whirled around the impending day. I mentally ticked through the day’s activities, trying to put all the puzzle pieces together so everything would fall in place.

Because I had no boundaries to keep me from doing too much, I constantly felt drained.

When I was stuck in people-pleasing patterns, I had a hard time saying “no.” I went along with what others wanted…or what I thought they wanted. I was an approval-seeker, trapped in a never-ending cycle of trying to please others. 

Because I had no boundaries to define where I ended and someone else began, I often asked myself, Who am I anymore?

I felt disconnected, discouraged, and lonely—even in some of my closest relationships. I frequently wondered, What is wrong with me?

I was really nice. And I tried very hard. 

But it wasn’t working. And underneath, I felt secretly resentful. 

But one day I finally realized, 

if I could create better boundaries, 

I would have a better life.

And I began to work on that.  It didn’t happen overnight. 

I prayed and studied my Bible. 

I started opening up in the right places and found myself heard and understood. I talked to a counselor and attended meetings with women who were working on boundary-setting. I found a life coach who walked with me and encouraged me to keep growing. 

I began to see my people-pleasing patterns, and I was able to discern where I needed limits in my life.

I looked at the life of Jesus and realized — Jesus had boundaries, too.

So I practiced my boundaries. It wasn’t easy in the beginning, and often, I failed. 

But I didn’t give up. 

Eventually, I began to see a difference. The dynamics of my routines and relationships improved. Healthy boundaries became part of my everyday life. 

With better boundaries, I had a better life.

I gained the skills I needed to...

Set healthy limits in a loving way

 Say no without the guilt


Speak up with confidence


Become an individual

Relate to others in new ways

As your life coach, I can help you, too, gain the skills that I learned. I can help you exchange people-pleasing for healthy boundaries. 

You’ll  feel more confident and find yourself again. You’ll  keep what is yours and let go of what is not!

Are you ready to see how better boundaries can give you a better life?

Hi! I’m Leslie Newman. I’ve been married to my husband, Steve, for 30 years. We have two adult children and a daughter-in-law.

I have a BS in Special Education, a Master’s Degree in Elementary Education, and 30+ years of experience teaching in public, private, and home school settings. My hobbies are writing and hiking.

I am a Certified Professional Life Coach, and I abide by the ICF Code of Ethics. I obtained my Life Coach Certification from the Professional Christian Coaching Institute.

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